First of all, let's begin by wishing all of the people celebrating Father's Day a very happy and joyous day this Sunday. Some of you reading this may be a father yourself, others of you may play the …
First of all, let's begin by wishing all of the people celebrating Father's Day a very happy and joyous day this Sunday. Some of you reading this may be a father yourself, others of you may play the role of a father, we may have some grandfathers celebrating the day too. And of course, we certainly have plenty of children of all ages celebrating with their fathers, and as a father myself, the day really is about my children and not about me at all.
This is also the first Father's Day that I have ever celebrated where distance and unique situations will have me separated from my children on Sunday. Many of you who have children who are away, maybe living abroad, perhaps serving our country in a foreign land, or who just happen to live too far away to get together in person probably know exactly how I feel. I am excited for them, disappointed that we are not together, and just happy that I am celebrating Father's Day in the first place. So like me, you probably also go through the whole cycle of emotions.
Although we are separated by distance, I have faith that each will call, I have faith that I will receive a card and some type of gift in the mail, although both are appreciated, they are also not necessary. I have faith that my children will also text me throughout the day on Sunday with one-liners, jokes, or silly dad humor. And even though we will not be physically together, it will still feel like Father's Day.
I say that with confidence because I also have the faith that each one of my children loves me and they also wish we could be together on Sunday. In the past Father's Day has typically included a morning round of golf with my son, a baseball game if the Rockies were home with the whole family, or a barbecue with family and friends who were also celebrating the day.
When it comes to having a father's faith, we must also believe that we have raised our children the best way we could and that even though we are apart, they know that they are loved, and they know that we have faith in them to succeed, be happy, be healthy, and to be safe.
While we are talking about a father's faith, we also have to remember that faith and fear are the same thing. They are both based on the belief that something will happen in the future. Positive folks like to have the faith and belief that our children will be loved, cared for when necessary, happy, safe, and secure. And then there are those of us who worry and instead of faith, we live with fear. We are always afraid that the worst is going to happen instead of expecting the best to happen for our children.
Now some of us, and I mean some very close friends and family members in my own circle, are challenged with a child who has made a bad decision or two, or three for that matter. And those children may not be with us this Father's Day because they have to be somewhere else for their own good and protection. But here, right here is where a father's faith is most important. It's right here in this moment and on Sunday that we can have the faith that our children who are struggling will find their path, embark on a new journey, sort out the distractions and dilemmas that temporarily set them astray.
A father's faith means that we have a strong enough faith in our children that we can remember what my friend, mentor, and former boss Zig Ziglar said thousands of times, "Failure is an event and it is not a person. Yesterday really did end last night." As a father of a struggling child of any age it is sometimes a little hard, and other times exceedingly difficult. And this is where our faith has to be its strongest.
After all, we all have a Father in heaven who has faith in each one of us regardless of how many mistakes we have made and how many challenging moments we have presented to Him. Our Father has faith in us to find our way, find our path, and become what we are destined to become.
So how about you? If you are a dad or a person who plays the role of a dad, how is your faith in your children? I would love to hear all about your own father's faith story at email@example.com, and when we can grant our children the same faith and grace that we have been granted, it really will be a better than good week.
Michael Norton is a resident of Castle Rock, the former president of the Zig Ziglar Corporation, a strategic consultant and a business and personal coach.